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An Unforgettable Day -by 莫愁
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说明:最近美国有关部门向我征稿,便随心写了这篇英文文章。我想我们亚特兰大的广   大168读者均是中、英双语,而且很多也熟悉我文中所说的女儿莫莉(英文名为Patricia Ford) 和描述的事情(GHP),因此将此文在这儿转载同大家分享。

          An Unforgettable Day in the Waiting Hall 

                                   By Xiaomei Mo

                                            March 26, 2010

     At first, I was hesitant when my daughter, Patricia, asked me if I could take her to the third and final dance audition for the Georgia Governor’s Honor Program (GHP).  The GHP, as I later found out, a prestigious program that is fully paid by the government education fund and takes place in the summer semester of a college campus. I had originally planned on having Patricia spend the majority of her summer preparing for the SAT.  As everyone knows that the SAT is a test that is hugely important as it, more or less, decides which college someone can attend.  Thus, the SAT has a direct effect on the career and life choices that one will have access to.  Now, is it worth noting to my daughter? I know that as Patricia has always been a very responsible student, she understands the importance of the SAT just as well as I do.

     “Are you sure you want to go?” I asked. “Yes I am sure” she insisted, “I love ballet so much, plus, to be chosen for the program would make me so happy”. She continuously tried to persuade me “Mom, you should know more about the GHP, and besides, even if I am not chosen, at least I will know how I compare to the other girls in Georgia”. Though I was sure that Patricia had the skill and charisma to be the lead role in dance performances, I had not seen her actual skill level be measured up against her peers by judges.  If this program was as great as she made it out to be, and if they really only accept the top talent in the state, I was indeed curious to see if my daughter could make the cut.  Ultimately, I agreed to take Patricia to the audition on one condition – that if she was to be accepted, it does not necessarily mean that she would get to go. 

     On the morning of February 6th, Patricia and I woke up bright and early, ready to embark on our hour-long drive to Georgia Southern High School where the audition was being held.  We eta, talked and laughed the whole way.  

     Upon arriving, we enter the school and were greeted by one of the teachers who asked if we had come for the dance audition. “Yes” Patricia replied and signed in. The teacher assigned Patricia a candidate number and directed her to the main auditorium where the audition was to be held. I kissed Patricia “Good bye”. “Parents can wait in the hall” the teacher said.  I was told that the full process would take roughly four hours so I knew I had a good deal of time to pass in the waiting hall. 

    I found a seat nearby, picked up a magazine and started to browse the articles.   However, the chatter was getting so loud that I found it hard to focus on reading. As I looked around the hall, I saw hundreds of parents and students; everyone seemed incredibly excited to be there. The hall was full of energy.  I overheard two girls next to me as they readied for the audition. “I have waited for two years, and worked so hard, now I am finally here” one of them said. The other shot back “I was the only one chosen from my dance school, and after the second round of auditions, our county only had 2 girls make it this far!” I saw another mother hug her daughter and say “Good Luck, I’m so proud of you!” My attention focused on the fact that everyone was so excited, the atmosphere was so charged. I recalled that Patricia did tell me that Fulton County only chose 3 students from over hundred candidates during the 2nd audition at Atlanta Ballet, and Patricia was one of them. Even today, at the final audition, only 15% of the students will be chosen. All of this chatter caught me attention. I began curious about this program that Patricia has been so focused on for the past months.

As I was thinking more about the GHP program, another mother took the empty chair next to me. She was brimming with excitement as she proclaimed “I am so proud of my daughter, I am sure you are proud of yours also”. I replied that I am proud of my daughter and all of her accomplishments.  However, I sadly reported that I had intended for today to be more of a test of my daughter’s skill level and that she may not be able to attend the actual GHP program due to the need to spend time studying for the SAT.  In response, the mother, at this time I have met for less than ten minutes gave me the most incredulous look imaginable.  I might as well have said that the world was square and that 1+1=3!

 “No!” she screamed at me, “You are wrong to think so. Don’t you know that our daughters are the best ones in the state? Yes, the SAT is important, but our daughters will make time for that. Don’t you think our daughter’s dreams, their talents, all of their hard work and achievements deserve to be recognized?” She continued her lesson to me, saying: “Don’t you understand what an honor it is for the girls to have been invited to appear here today?” Feeling a little uneasy about my ignorance of the Governor’s Honor Program, I confessed that I was unfamiliar with the program’s meaning. As the conversation progressed, we started to talk about various topics including the school system and the area around where we both lived.  Midway through the waiting period, we had become good friends and exchanged contact information. 

 A moment later, my new friend started speaking seriously again: “As a friend, I want to be responsible for you and your daughter, and I want you to swear that if your daughter is chosen for the program, you will let her attend”. At first I was flabbergasted by her forwardness.  She seemed to almost demand me to let Patricia partake in the program.  However, the more I thought about it, the more I decided that it was not such a bad idea after all.  It is true that dancing has always been a favorite hobby of Patricia’s for as long as she can remember.  In the past few years, the hobby has evolved into a passion that is clearly visible to anyone who has witnessed Patricia on stage.  The idea of following ones dream started to catch on to me and I replied to my new friend “Thank you for telling me all of this. I will seriously consider allowing my daughter to participate and will let you know what I decided to do.”

“Attention parents!” a voice interrupted us.  One of the teachers in charge was preparing to make an announcement.  “If anyone is interested in learning more about the Governor’s Honor Program please step this way to join our seminar.” Of course, my new found friend and I went to the seminar. We listened to the program director’s speech and attended a video of the activities. I became more familiar with the program’s acknowledgements. I learned how successful applicants represented the top 0.1% of Georgia’s students in 20 different fields. “They would be chosen for 6 weeks of summer training, at the government’s expense. Our governor is encouraging students to excel in their chosen field, and rewarding them with the summer program, credit will be considered for college admission. The difficulties our daughters had overcome, in order to attend today, were enormous; first they had to be nominated by their high schools, nominations being based on grades, attendance, and PSAT scores. Advancing through each counties competition meant auditioning here today. Only 15% of students here today would advance to the summer program. At that moment, my new friend’s words began more making sense to me.

     I started thinking back that my daughter had started ballet lessons at age 4, and spent all of her spare time dancing. She was the most talented student in her ballet school, and was always the principal dancer in their performances of the “Nutcracker”, “Sleeping Beauty”, and “Coppelia”. In my concerns over SATs, I had forgotten all of the rides I gave her, the dozens of worn out ballet shoes, the videotapes and DVDs burned for grandparents. I began to think about the dedication, time and commitment she has poured into the world of dance. It was at this moment that I truly believed my new friends words. This was indeed a very prestigious program, a wonderful opportunity, one of the most unforgettable experiences that our daughter would have in her life time. It was something that would make both Patricia and I proud to be a part of.  

    As the students finished their auditions and reported back to their parents, their hearts racing and their faces flush with color, I decided to reevaluate Patricia’s desire to achieve this goal. Should I be open minded and be proud of her achievements on dance? I answered myself with a resounding “Yes”. I decided that if chosen, I will let her fulfill this dream, develop her talent, and attend the GHP summer program. Confident in the idea that she will find time for SATs, I changed my mind. 

Then, Patricia came out. I greeted her with a smile on my face and asked her how she thought she did.  She responded confidently that the judges liked her and hoped that in two months time, she would receive the notice of acceptance.  I hugged her and told her that I also hope the good news comes, and when it does, I whole-heartedly hoped that she would attend.  She looked happily surprised as she told me that I had changed.  At that time it was apparent to me that this is what my daughter had wished for all along. 

In conclusion, that day I spent in the waiting hall really changed my philosophy and outlook in regard to leading my daughter’s life.  I still hold school to be important, and that will never change.  However, I am no longer the rock-solid scholastic enforcer that I had been for so much of my daughter’s life.  Ever since that day in the waiting hall, I am thankful to have overheard all the loud chatter; I am thankful for my new friend, and I am thankful for the Governor’s Honor Program, for giving me the opportunity to realize the potential in both Patricia and within myself.  I am thankful, because I was able to support my daughter and encourage her to follow her dream, to develop her talent!

As of today, Patricia received the acceptance announcement from the Georgia Governor’s Honor Program. Like a small bird taking its first flight, my daughter left the nest!

 

 

 
















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IP :*.*.*.136
143#发布于 2010-04-03 05:26:28
首先,跳舞唱歌打球运动都是可高兴和鼓励的.但反反复复不停的在网上多次贴孩子的照片和文章是太过了,,观回贴中持异议的并不是嫉妒,也许只是"被疲劳了",谁也不爱听"祥林嫂"唠唠叨叨吧.
   
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IP :*.*.*.170
142#发布于 2010-04-03 05:15:02
同意141楼的意见.

还有就是既然把私事放到公共论坛上来, 就要有承受别人品头论足的心理准备. 不能只留下好的, 把自己认为不好的给删除或让网管删除. 如果没有这个心理素质, 那就自己开个博客. 那是你的天地, 随便你干啥都行.

一孔之见, 欢迎拍砖, 但不欢迎被删除.
   
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141#发布于 2010-04-03 04:39:19
什么事情都不应该过度,中国人看重谦虚为美,老美喜欢吹捧和赞美。两者都没有错,只是个人和文化方面感受不一样。在这个中国人的网站,自然会有矛盾。
   
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140#发布于 2010-04-03 04:23:32

孩子们不管取得什么成功也都是可贺可喜滴!

   
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IP :*.*.*.201
139#发布于 2010-04-03 04:13:35
进名校才是正经的事儿。
   
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莫愁
138#发布于 2010-04-03 04:01:17

非常由衷的祝贺女儿高中的最好朋友肖Karen被哈佛大学和MIT录取!也由衷地为她父母亲-我们的朋友肖宇和陈苑生而高兴!他们在勤奋工作之余,为孩子们的成长所作的大量努力是我们大家有目共睹和极为欣佩的!

也正是肖Karen引导女儿Patricia申请参加GHP的,也是Karen 最先知晓并告知和祝贺PatriciaGHP录取之事。Karen她不仅自己聪明能干,还一直帮助身边的同学和朋友们。Karen 早就受到了MIT的录取通知,昨天,Patricia欣喜地告知我关于Karen也被哈佛录取之事。孩子们的相互鼓励和帮助实在是令人欢欣!

遗憾的是个别成年人,妒忌别人的成功,打压别人的积极性,可悲之极!

   
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IP :*.*.*.234
137#发布于 2010-04-03 03:02:51

129楼,好好想想别的曾经也在这个舞蹈学校跳舞的女孩,非常优秀并且也进了名校,她们的父母的感受。。。。。
100多女孩的父母都与你同乐吗?他们就是

“极个别整日里不工作,蒙着头在这里没完没了的争斗、嫉妒、打击、骂人的小人给予蔑视!我只能说她是百无聊赖,自寻烦脑的可悲之人!此人几乎是疯狂地反复复制那被审、被删、被除的帖子,还不甘心?这就是失道寡助!让她去继续自行烦脑吧!"

用伤害别人的手段来掩饰自己缺点的人,是可耻的!这就是为什么你女儿所在的学校争斗多!这样宣传真的是为学校好吗?家长们都高兴?

   
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136#发布于 2010-04-03 01:26:24
已经发展成国际性质了,可别影响了中美关系。
   
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IP :*.*.*.201
135#发布于 2010-04-02 19:30:20
经常在这里宣传自己的女儿和魏东胜舞校,同样的照片放了无数次,是不是有点过了?
   
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IP :*.*.*.18
134#发布于 2010-04-02 19:16:48

132楼这样的人就是那种走到哪里,就搅和到哪里的人,明知人家不想理你,还赖着不走的人。

顶莫愁, Support her husband, 131楼的Skip Ford!有这样一对好父母,当然就养出了出色的好女儿,听说莫愁的儿子也很出色,是医学院的研究生。

   
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133#发布于 2010-04-02 18:34:58

132楼傻不傻呀?像你这样的人在168上,不停地打击发表文章的人,以后168上的文章就少了,就没什么可看的了。像你这样的人走了,168上就太平盛世了。还是自觉走了的好,省得人家撵你。哈哈!

   
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132#发布于 2010-04-02 18:17:20

郭半城真累啊168网城大什么事都要又要忙着擦屁股火。要知道168上没有“说三道四的大大放 就没有你老郭的168有人要拿自家的人自会有人是再自然不了。没有必要看到一点党网管那一套。有人要把自己拿到你168台子上来“show off", 应该许观评论。要不168就会要溜吧网友走人了哦

   
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IP :*.*.*.18
131#发布于 2010-04-02 18:08:27

My wife’s recently posted article, about her and our daughter’s trip to the Governor’s Honors Program finals, seems to have drawn fire from a reader who insults my wife, insults our daughter, and even criticizes me.

 

It seems that one of you has missed the jest of the story:

After years of devoting their entire lives to the upbringing of the children, a time comes when the child no longer needs, or wants the guidance of the parents. The child has matured to the point where they are ready to try it on their own, and the realization that it is time to let go, saddens the parents.

 

It was decided early on that I would work to support the family, while my beautiful wife would take the charge of accompanying our child for 16+ years, setting an example for her, and guiding her down the very important road to adulthood. This direction would have an everlasting impression on our daughter’s education, actions, manners, and general attitude toward other people, and her future life as an adult, mother and wife, herself.

 

I am very proud of my wife for her success in her endeavors. My wife is the most precious person in my life. I love her more than anything and I thank God daily for her interaction in my life. She has given me two children of whom I am very proud. She has loved me despite my faults, and supported me in my endeavors. She has made my life whole, and I look forward to spending eternity with her.

 

I am also thankful to my wife, her parents, and to our friends in the Chinese community, for a different culture that I, as a Caucasian, have come to love as much as my own. I have been welcomed into the homes of many, many of you. You have fed me, entertained me, been hospitable to me, and befriended me. We have worked together, we have laughed together, and, unfortunately, we have cried together. I remember each of you, and I am grateful for your friendship, despite our cultural differences, which, when you compare them, are really not different at all. When I look at you, I do not see a person difference from me, I see you as the individual that you are, I see your heart, and I thank you for your love.

 

Inner peace comes at different times to different people. To the one who never has anything nice to say about anyone or anything (we know who you are), we feel sorry for you. You are obviously an unhappy person. We pray that you will some day find peace with your demons, and with yourself.

 

Skip Ford

   
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IP :*.*.*.66
130#发布于 2010-04-02 18:04:28
唉,都该洗洗睡了。
   
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莫愁
129#发布于 2010-04-02 17:48:22

看到在这一、两天的时间里,我这篇文章创下了如此之多的评论,使我感慨由升:

首先,我想由衷地感谢这许许多多的热情祝贺、秉诚支持、友好称赞的朋友们!他()们是:卞人、双歧杆君、搭错车、知足、好摄、小草、尘沙、户人、玉山峰、笑微、书生、老郭、老棕熊、林黛、戈壁红柳、狍子、江南游子等等(也许有遗漏的)署名的好朋友们,以及数不尽的未署名的多层楼的友善点评和努力支持的朋友和读者们,非常非常地感谢你们!

此外,对极个别整日里不工作,蒙着头在这里没完没了的争斗、嫉妒、打击、骂人的小人给予蔑视!我只能说她是百无聊赖,自寻烦脑的可悲之人!此人几乎是疯狂地反复复制那被审、被删、被除的帖子,还不甘心?这就是失道寡助!让她去继续自行烦脑吧!

   
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128#发布于 2010-04-02 17:44:47
老郭呀,老郭,说你啥好呢? 这帖被你删的千窗百孔。
   
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IP :*.*.*.18
127#发布于 2010-04-02 17:38:10

125楼当然是在骂那个专在这儿损人之人哪。看,那个专门损人的人的帖子都被删了。删得好!删得好!

   
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IP :*.*.*.66
126#发布于 2010-04-02 17:04:47
125楼在骂谁呀?
   
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游客
IP :*.*.*.39
125#发布于 2010-04-02 17:00:56
实在不明白,损人不利己,真有那么爽吗?可以让你今晚的觉睡得好一些吗?咱们老中啊,哎,怪不得当年,那么一个小小的日本,可以打进中国,这跟我们的民族的劣根性应该有些关系吧?
   
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IP :*.*.*.143
124#发布于 2010-04-02 16:54:37
该帖因拒绝溜须拍马被删除,原作者愤怒中!
   
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